Normal. Its an odd looking word isn't it? Seems innocuous on the surface. So benign and non-threatening. What everyone wants to be inside just like everyone else. Right? Except it's a lie, of course. No one really wants to be like everyone else. That's why we have heroes in life. People we want to grow up to be like. You know what's different about heroes? They most definitely aren't normal. Who really wants to be normal?
Which is what makes the whole
normality movement the strangest thing I have ever encountered. Why are
parents trying to make their children normal? Well that's just plain
stupid! If anyone ever actually had a real discussion about what
"normal" means it would go right straight to the realization that what's
normal for some is perfectly odd to others. So why the obsession
with normality among so many parents?
It's a form of
control which can't be missed. Why would anyone want to worship at the
alter of normality? Does normal mean right? Does normal mean good?
Does normal really mean anything at all? There are many, many words
that are pure garbage. Normal is one of them. Using the word means you
have no idea what the word means. You can't, because how can anyone
define normal for anyone else? How can they really define normal for
Then there is the kissing cousin to
normal, safe. The other thing every parent wants their children to be.
Safe makes sense, but its a loaded word full of loaded meaning. Loving
your children does mean keeping them safe. But safe from danger, not
from growing. That is the one thing you can't keep your children from
experiencing. Growth. Growth is going to happen whether you like it or
not, and it most certainly is going to happen outside that arbitrary box
we call normal.
Safety is something I believe in.
Good parenting requires good instruction. Those that listen become
wiser. Listening to your children is wiser than ignoring them like so
many do out there. Communication is the heart of the family. If its
missing then something is missing. Your family is the center of your
life. When family isn't talking, something is wrong. Family should
always be talking and be in communication with each other. That is the
cornerstone of all our problems in the world.
talk to your children, not at them. Normal is talking at your
children. Normal is control that isn't right. Normal is shaming your
children into conformity. Normal is abusing your power as a parent.
Never use the term normal with human beings. It is unwise. It is also